Developing Protected, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis


It is December, so light 1 up as we take the time to realign and reflect. As we gallop by means of the fierce, fiery, and adventurous domain of Sagittarius Season, we’re led deeper into our desires, into what’s worthwhile for us to personal and reach. Represented by the glyph of the archer, Sagittarius is 1 with the bow and arrow it carries aiming at its vision with intent and concentrate. Sagittarius calls us to develop and evolve, and occasionally this suggests taking stock of unique elements of our life, like our emotional, physical, and spiritual wellbeing. And although it may possibly not be the most exciting issue to assume about, occasionally this can assistance us get clarity about our connection with items like cannabis, and how this is assisting or hindering our magick. 

It is no shocker that I appreciate cannabis. While I use it to assistance with anxiousness, I largely use it recreationally, as a way to loosen up and bond with loved ones and mates, as properly as a element of my spiritual and ritual practice. But lately something’s been off my physique hasn’t been reacting to cannabis the way it typically does. I took a tolerance break earlier this Fall to assistance with this, but now I am realizing the universe and my spirit guides are most most likely yelling at me—through a racing heart and unhappy lungs—to let me know that the way I have been operating with this sacred plant medicine is not so sacred. Due to the fact it is Sagittarius season, and nearing the finish of the year, I decided it would be a superior time to readjust my connection with weed. But I can not assistance but wonder: considering that this is a season when exciting and sexiness reign supreme…can I use BDSM to assistance redefine my connection with cannabis?

To assistance me answer the major inquiries (like how can I be the Domme in my connection to cannabis rather of getting cannabis Domme me?) I talked to skilled dominatrix, sex witch and cannabis connoisseur Domina Dia Dynasty. We speak about locating clarity, negotiating boundaries with plant medicine, holding reverence for the spirit of the cannabis plant and how to use kink to whip your connection with cannabis into shape. 

Be Truthful About Your Partnership With Cannabis

The very first step you will want to take in developing a healthier and saner connection with cannabis is to be sincere about what this connection appears like correct now, and how this has shifted considering that you entered the connection. Like myself, Dia had a exciting and lighthearted connection with cannabis at the starting, but right after getting into a romantic partnership midway by means of her time Domming at a industrial dungeon seven years ago, items started to shift, causing her to rethink the approaches in which she was working with cannabis.

“I saw positive aspects of it that have been additional in a playful exciting way, in loosening my thoughts up and becoming inventive. Then it began to be this issue that I required to deal with anxiousness and to deal with specific elements of my connection that I was extremely extremely blind to simply because I didn’t know what PTSD and trauma looked like in other individuals,” Dia explained. “I could see it in passing with some of the consumers I had or that they would inform me about it, but in living with somebody and getting a connection with them that was intimate on all levels, it was really hard for me to have an understanding of what was genuinely going on.”

While she would incorporate cannabis into some of her sessions with consumers, either as some thing to improve somatic experiences, or to bring about some anxiousness that she would hold space for and transmute, Dia realized that her connection with the plant was becoming habitual, and not as conscious as it had been in the starting. “I had permitted cannabis to dominate me by creating a dependency with it.  Now as I’ve shifted my connection with it, it is not so a lot that I’m dominating it, it is additional like becoming in that mode of switchiness,” Dia explains. “I want to have a healthful connection with it and I do not want to say ‘I’m quitting’ or ‘I’m not undertaking it anymore’. It is additional about gaining clarity. As an individual who is extremely switchy and extremely mutable, it is far better for me to be capable to pick some thing than to be forbidden to not pick something”

In my personal case, working with cannabis habitually has also turn into a dependency, 1 that I really feel like I have to have for social events or to assistance quell anxious, lonely or worried thoughts. And although I’m okay nevertheless working with cannabis, I recognize that this is not sustainable, and that seeing the plant with additional reverence, and seeing its use as some thing sacred, rather of some thing super casual, will assistance me deepen my connection with its spirit. 

Ivory Woods

Get Clear On Your Intention And Re-Negotiate Boundaries 

Taking the time to assume of how your connection to cannabis has shifted, and what you want this to appear like, will only assistance you negotiate healthier boundaries with it in the future. This negotiation is some thing that is also noticed in the BDSM planet.  Just before you start a scene, which is an arranged and consensual BDSM (bondage/ dominance/ discipline/ sadism/ masochism) act, you will negotiate with your partners and determine on any boundaries (so any YES’s and any really hard NO’s) you have. When we are reframing our usage of cannabis, no matter whether it is simply because we want to have a additional conscious connection with it or simply because we want to be healthier, we can renegotiate our boundaries in the very same way, to assistance what we do want our connection with cannabis to appear like.  Just simply because Dia is hunting for multidimensional clarity with her connection with cannabis, does not imply that has to be the objective for you to. 

If you are like me, perhaps you are just hunting for a healthier physical connection to your physique, or to genuinely honor the reverence of the cannabis plant. What ever your intention is, acquiring clear on this ahead of you start negotiating with your self can assistance you set your self up for achievement. Obtaining realistic expectations and boundaries for this perform is also a different major piece of the puzzle. Are you hunting to have a additional mystical connection with earth medicine? Or to genuinely only perform with the plant when you are in social scenarios? Perhaps you want to only use it medicinally, and not recreationally. Honor what ever feels correct for you in this scenario.

“That sort of reframing is genuinely significant. I do not think in absolutes. So to concentrate additional on clarity is not to say ‘I will under no circumstances do this once again,’” Dia explains. “It’s additional ‘What do I have to have now?’ It is additional of a case-by-case issue now. Renegotiating your boundaries in a way that is like ‘I’m only going to smoke with other people’ or setting down parameters exactly where you determine ‘I’m only going to smoke at a specific time below specific conditions’ and then stick to these so you do not have regrets later. Choose slightly far better alternatives, slightly far better alternatives we’re not attempting to go the complete route, but taking 1 step at a time”

Taking child measures to get to exactly where you are going is okay also you do not start out a BDSM scene at complete force, but create up to the preferred intensity so you are capable to sustain it. We’re undertaking the very same issue in reframing our connection to ganja. Developing boundaries is an act of self-preservation considering about what you have to have and what tends to make sense for your life is crucial. If you smoke each day, perhaps it tends to make sense to start out with only smoking at evening and on the weekends, or only with mates in the course of the week. Perhaps you only smoke two joints per week, or perform with CBD and not THC. Hold your self accountable, but do not overlook to have self-compassion and bear in mind why you are undertaking this in the very first spot. 

Produce Individual Rituals And Protocols

After we’ve produced boundaries or really hard limits for ourselves, a different major way we can perform with cannabis is by means of sacred intent. We can honor the spirit of the cannabis plant is by blessing it, by holding it with reverence, and by celebrating the spirit of the plant itself. This does not have to be difficult. It can be some thing as basic as holding your flower, vape, concentrate, or tincture in your hands and thanking it, or charging your flower on your altar. 

“Ritualize the use of it, and even ahead of you engage with that ritual with how you smoke or take it in, attempt blessing it and getting that be a element of the ritual,” Dia suggests. “I assume all of these elements of ritual also permit you to take into account if this is some thing you have to have correct now in this moment. Like exactly where is this have to have or drive coming from? Am I self-medicating, am I feeding a dependency? At times you are in the middle of setting up a ritual and you are like ‘I’m undertaking this out of worry.’ At times it is that moment of clarity, like ‘maybe I need to place this off till later, or comeback to it when I’m not feeling fearful.’” 

You can even make rituals a non-negotiable for your self, operating that into your boundaries, developing your personal protocol as it is identified in the BDSM planet. A protocol is a ritual you practice in a energy-dynamic it can be placing a collar on the submissive, kissing the boots of the dominant when they enter the area, or getting a freshly packed bowl on the nightstand each evening. Perhaps your private protocol with cannabis is saying “thank you” to the earth and the cannabis plant and all the individuals that have helped you connect with it. Perhaps it is smoking out of a sacred crystal bowl anytime you incorporate weed into your witchcraft, or consuming a chocolate edible each time you take a ritual bath. Your protocol can even be taking a second to assume “do I essentially have to have this correct now” and then honoring what ever the answer is. The protocols and ritual have to match into your life and make sense for you. If they do not, what’s the point?

The High Priestess: Creating Safe, Sane, and Consensual Boundaries with Cannabis
Ivory Woods

Invite Cannabis To The Scene

If we are negotiating our connection to cannabis as if we have been in a scene, then who’s to say that the spirit of cannabis is not a different companion we have to perform with? Who’s to say the Ganja Goddess does not turn into a different prepared participant? We can incorporate cannabis into a scene actually, like smoking ahead of a superior consensual spanking session or by playing with forced intoxication (consensually acquiring a companion stoned), and taking note of how the cannabis impacts our physique, thoughts, and spirit. And we can also do this in ritual, when we are opening ourselves up to connect to some thing larger than ourselves no matter whether it is the universe, pleasure, or the actual spirit of the cannabis plant. 

“Allow it [the cannabis plant] to speak to you. At the starting of a ceremony, you can open up to that intention ‘what do you want me to know, what do you want me to see, what do you want me to really feel.’ Let the cannabis to be that wisdom that comes in and shows you items,” Dia suggests. 

Regardless of whether you are hunting to smoke significantly less, smoke additional consciously, or just make positive you are the Domme in your connection to cannabis, adding a bit of subversion to the knowledge can not assistance. By acquiring clear on your intentions, renegotiating your boundaries with cannabis, and developing sacred protocols and rituals you will come out on best with your connection to weed. And if you want to pervert this even additional, and perform a small attractive kinky stoned magick in there, we’ll that can not hurt either. So mote it be, witches.


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